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Hair Update!

So, I've gotten a few emails asking me about my baldness. I'm guessing that they want an update.
Well, here it is:
It has started to grow back slowly. I have actually learned to love the shortness. I love how easy it is and how the other bald chicks in the world think we belong to some sort of cool ass elite club. I love fucking with people when they stare.
I really don't miss it, but I am however at this current moment, allowing it to grow.

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The Life of a Bald Chick!

About 1 year ago, I had long, straight, black hair down to my ass. I always managed to receive compliments on it when I wore it down. Is that you're real color? Do you straighten it?


Because I work and live in the medical profession, my hair was always up and hardly ever wore it down. It really made no sense for me to keep it that length.
 So, I went out and got a cute spunky haircut! 
I loved it and it lightened up my facial features. 
It was more me! Spunky!!!
(SHUT UP!!!!!!)

Fast forward 8 months later......

My hair started falling out in chunks. At first it wasn't that noticable. 
Everytime I took a shower, more and more hair wads and clumps were falling out. 
Now, I'm not talking 100-200 strands..I'm talking handfuls! I was sooo fucking fearful to shower everyday, in fear of how bald I was going. My scalp was itchy and had blisters on it.
Turns out it was a nasty reaction that I was having.

I tried to learn new hair techniques, such as the comb-over. 
As each shower passed and clumps of hair washed away into the drain, my self conscience washed away with them. The dread, the fear...what if people knew? 
What if someone saw? I grew increasingly paranoid. I would mentally freak out if someone stood next to me or behind me.
What if they were staring? What did she see? What did she think? Does she know I'm bald? How do I keep going to work like this? This paranoid?!?!?!?!
as it grew increasingly worse:

At this point..I couldn't take anymore. I had to shave it. I was having a breakdown. I wanted my hair gone as much as I wanted my fears and paranoia gone. I just wanted this hell over with. I didn't want to freak out anymore. I was making myself mental.

After, I shaved it...It was a big fucking relief! I think I accepted the fact that I was bald before the people around me did. They all freaked out and I was back to my normal self. It was amazing!
I was being held hostage by my own stupid hair!
I saved an hour a day with conditioners and styling. I finally learned what a "7 in 1 body wash"really means! 
Losing my hair has been one of the most liberating experiences of my life, and most bald women will tell you this! You learn how society portrays beauty and femininity with hair. How women are perceived by looks and not personality. By losing my hair, I've discovered how my facial features really are amazing! My jaw line is amazing and never noticed it before! Being bald, opens a whole new form of beauty.
Now, I have received great a many of comments regarding this choice and a whole lot of strange looks. You have to be prepared to get stared at. Most people will glance up and try their best not to be obvious by looking at your naked head. They'll glance several more times. Some will blatantly stare while they think you're not looking. It's these times that I just state "yes, I'M BALD"...Some will ask to rub your head and others will ask if you have cancer and are dying. It is these particular times that I have fun with people and come up with some sort of idiotic response. My favorite so far has been "I'm going to be a mannequin for Halloween". 
You learn how strong you really are and how fast people are willing to judge you. Myself included (before I went bald). 

Loving Life with a naked head!

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You'd think that I would have learned by now but nooooooo..
Drinking vodka on an empty stomach equals....SO NOT FREAKING COOL the next morning!! Wtf is wrong with me?!?!
I'm dying here!!!!!

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What Photographers want you to know!

1: Most of us really love the arts! We thoroughly enjoy being able to portray human emotion through photographs.
2. We are not some freaks with cameras running around.
3. As most of the general public may assume that we're uneducated and decided to choose photography as a profession. A good percentage of us are not. I for example have multiple degrees. My primary career is in medicine, my secondary degree is in Fine Arts. Does that make me any less or more of a photographer? Absolutely not. If anything, it makes me quite fond of humans and emotions.
4." We are poor and will work for peanuts."   False....Again, most of us have educations and quite successful careers. We make great money and because of this, it allows us to pursue our passion...photography! Do we try to explain this to our clients? Absolutely not.. Does this mean that I will work for nothing? It all really depends. I have done 10 hour weddings for under minimum wage (this doesn't happen very often).
5. So you think you hired me for 6 hours and I took 300 pictures? Truth is, your 6 hours is really 10 and your 300 pictures are really 800. We don't just snap photos and call it a day. We strategically place, we observe lighting, replace and add lighting, contrast colors. We work within our elements and try our best to be as creative as possible with in our means. When we go home, we upload your photos and edit, edit, edit, and edit some more! Sure, our creativity is with the people and scenery we are working with at that time, but our creativity also lies in editing. We want you to feel what we felt at that moment. What kind of human emotion can we express? So we sift through your 800 taken photos. We eliminate duplicates and become highly critical of each and every individual photo we've taken. Lines, expressions, contrasts, shadows etc. We pick the very best of the very best and decide to edit them. We crop, tweak, add, delete, thin out, blur out, add light, add dark..etc. So your 6 hours hired, is now 10 hours.
6. We're not too fond of numbers! You ask us how much and how many and a good photographer usually can't give a definite answer. We'll ask "how many do you want?". Truth is: we may take 1000 pictures and only come up with 200 really great pictures, edited. You may be super photogenic and out of the 1000, we may come up with 800 really great photos! We don't want you pissed because you have a funny expression on your face!
7. We want you to hire us because we're creative, because what you see in our portfolios, is what we see too!
8.We're all not stuffy! Now, I've worked side by side with plenty of mutant like photographers. Ya, ummmm..we're all not like this! I'm a spunky, in your face type of gal that loves to laugh! 
9. I am human too
10. We aim to please and want to capture what you want us to, but we also have some awesome ideas too regarding your wedding, event etc.

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